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Feeling anxious? Do this to get rid of your anxiety

Feeling anxious and don’t know what to do? Then this post is for you. You don’t need to worry, as in this blog post, I am going to talk about the same. You will find 3 steps to get rid of your anxiety immediately and also how to get rid of it in the long run. So, read the post till the end.

Anxiety is one of the most common problems people face these days. It’s not something new. 

The reason can be anything, you might be someone who thinks about your career too much which makes you feel anxious or you might be a student who is feeling anxious because you are worried about your upcoming exams. But you need to worry, it’s alright, it happens to everyone. You just need to find out the tips, tricks, and ways that will help you go back to normal. 

3 steps to get rid of your anxiety, Immediately!

Step 1. Focus on your breath

To get rid of your anxiety, the first thing you need to do is focus on your breath. 

Inhale with a count of 1-5, then hold your breath for 5 sec, then exhale with you counting from 1 to 5. Now, repeat this exercise 3-4 times. This will lead your heart to pump blood faster which will increase the amount of oxygen supply to your brain. 

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Step 2. Count from 1-10

Next, close your eyes and count from 1 to 10. Not just count, rather gather your focus on the glabella(the area between your eyebrows) and then start to count. This practice will shift your focus from the problem or the situation that made you anxious in the first place. 

Step 3. Grab a glass of water

Grab a glass and drink a lot of water. Studies have shown that dehydration actually makes your anxiety even worse. So, drink a lot of water and stay hydrated.

Now, the 4 ways to get rid of your anxiety in the long run

1. Don’t overthink

Have you ever met a person who is always overreacting? They are like a bullet train on fire, all the time. If they might run out of milk or eggs some morning, they will just go crazy. 

Why do think they do it? Obviously, they don’t do it on purpose but that’s not the point, they still do it. The reason behind it is because they have developed a certain mindset that makes them react, and actually overreact in every situation. Their mind is set to overthink every situation they are in, good or bad, making them go crazy every time.

Thinking too much is one of the main reasons why people suffer from stress and anxiety these days. One of the most common examples we see every day about overthinking is how people overthink the society we live in today. They care about other people too much, what they are gonna say, how will they react if they do certain things or not, which ultimately affects them only. 

But do you know what the truth is? Everyone is so busy thinking about themselves that they don’t even care about others. Here is a graphic showing what actually happens.

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No one cares about the things that are going on in your life. Everyone cares about themselves only. It’s just a misconception in your mind that it really matters to others how your hair is looking.

2. Live in the present 

There are 3 types of people in this world. The one who always thinks about the past, the one who always thinks about their future, and the remaining ones. 

Which one of them are you? Ask yourself.

Are you the first one, who is always lost thinking about their past?

The mistakes you have made, the opportunities you missed, the loss or failures you have experienced; basically, regretting all the things that you could not have done or achieved. But tell me one thing, can you go back in time and fix those leaks? 

No, you can’t… Right? 

Then why make yourself go through all those hardships, again and again, that doesn’t serve you anything? Why make yourself all anxious that eventually affects your mental health? 

If this person is you then I would like to say to you that – STOP DOING IT, NOWWWW. Instead, learn from those failures and the mistakes you have made in past to grow in life. 

The same is the case with those who are always lost thinking and worrying about their future. The only way to make your future bright and become successful is by taking action and most importantly taking action NOW. The time you are wasting thinking about such things can be used in making something that matters. 

If you are a fan of animated movies like I am, then you would know what Master Oogway said in the film called Kung Fu Panda. He said, Yesterday is history, and tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift that’s why it is called a present. 

It doesn’t matter what you did in your past and what are you going to do in your future. What only matters is what you are doing TODAY. It’s a blend of everything, what you have learned from the mistakes of the past, and based on those learnings what you do today that is going to decide what you will be tomorrow.

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3. Train your brain

Everyday rut makes everyone go crazy. You are always like I need to do this, I need to do that, and why this, why not, the list never ends. Sometimes people even face trouble with remembering things and they puzzle things around that contribute to their anxiety.

Meditating for about 15-20 minutes every day can help you train your brain for your betterment. It soothes your mind and takes your mind to peace. It helps you train your brain for the upcoming odds and gives you the power to tackle them. 

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And the cool part is that you don’t need a trainer or a coach to start mediation. You can start meditating today on your own with apps like Calm, Breathe, Headspace, etc. These platforms are trusted by millions of users who practice meditation virtually with industry experts every day. 

If you are someone who doesn’t have the money to put into such apps, then don’t worry. I have a solution for that too. If you want to start something, there is no reason to stop. 

Find a place that’s peaceful in your home, where you can be with yourself only. No one should be in that place where you want to meditate. Now, sit down on the floor and close your eyes. Forget everything that’s running in your mind and try to focus. Gather all your energy to one single point in your mind(or you can try glabella as the focal point). Practice this for about 10 minutes; don’t stress yourself too much in your starting days. You can gradually increase the timings afterward. 

4. Write it down

Studies have shown around 73% of the world’s population suffers from mental health issues today and stress and anxiety contribute to that percentage on a higher level basis. 

There can be several reasons that can cause stress and anxiety including unhealthy work-life balance, lifestyle, career issues, personal & emotional issues, relationship problems, health issues, hereditary, etc.

Now, don’t feel intimidated by these depressing words because every problem has a solution. And it’s too obvious when your problem gets solved, you become stress-free. 

Writing down your problems with details will help you to find the solution and reduces your stress level and anxiety to a greater extent. 

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Take a piece of paper and write down your problems on it. Now, try to find solutions by writing every thought that comes to your mind, you will also notice that as you start writing, your mind will get clarity and you will be able to see things from different and newer angles. As your problem will get solved, so do your anxiety.

Conclusion

There is no problem in this world that doesn’t have a solution to it. You might not know the answers yet but it’s still there, just know it. You just have to keep digging and not lose hope. But in all this hard work, don’t forget to take care of yourself. Don’t make your problems or situations even worse by overthinking them. 

There is a quote that goes like this, 

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.

– Charles R. Swindoll

So, just be calm. No need to take any type of stress that makes you feel anxious and affects your mental health badly. 

TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF!!!

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How to boost your self-confidence?

Self-confidence is one of the most important traits to have as a human being, whether it’s in your workplace, at home, or in your everyday life. It counts everywhere.

But do you even know what makes a person confident? Well, there is no one-stop shop where you can get the recipe and all the ingredients that you will need to prepare the food item called self-confidence. 

Then what is it, that matters the most when it comes to being self-confident? It’s the personality you carry, it’s the way you behave or act with the general public.

Have you ever been in a situation where despite being capable and talented, you didn’t get the opportunity to lead a group of people? I know it feels really bad when you have the capability but still, it happened. 

You know, the reason lies within you.

There might be a possibility that you are not very good at dealing with people and your boss knows it. Therefore, he decided to give this job to someone else and not you. 

These little but huge things together make you feel that you lack self-confidence. But don’t worry, here are 5 ways that will help you boost your self-confidence. They are basically little shifts that you have to make in how you see and visualize things, and you are good to go.

1. Know your worth

Self-esteem is one of the most important factors when it comes to increasing your self-confidence.

Oftentimes people don’t see themselves as worthy enough to do what they feel. They don’t really believe in themselves which makes them dependent on others. People with low self-esteem don’t celebrate their life, they are the one who always feels that everything bad is happening to them only. 

Well, I want to tell them, it’s not true. Here is a quote, that goes like this

Life is happening for you and not to you.

– TONY ROBBINS

Know, that you are one of your kind and your views and opinions matter too. Think of yourself as a unique personality who is provided with unique gifts by the universe. Know, that there is something that only you can offer to society and you have the power to make a change. So, know it. Know your worth.

2. Learn when to say no

Have you ever been in a situation where your boss wants you to take on certain responsibilities for an upcoming project and despite being tight on schedule and having a lot to do on your list, you just say YES to him because you don’t want to sound rude? 

It happens to a lot of people. You are not alone.

A lot of people feel hard to say no to others for things they don’t want or feel like doing. And because they want others not to hate them or like them even more, they just nod in their favor, even if it costs them a lot. They might not see the consequences but they are putting themselves in trouble only by doing so, by being the people pleaser. This puts them into stress; the stress of how will they manage everything properly, or what if they won’t be able to, or what if, what if, what if.

Saying a clear ‘NO’ acts as a lifesaver in situations like these. I’m not saying you to be rude to your seniors and say no directly to their faces. But you can tell the truth; you can tell them politely that it would be very nice to be a part of this project but you have a lot of other stuff to do and you won’t be able to do this as your top priority. 

This way you can come up with a clean-green signal. And even if they push you to take that responsibility anyway, you won’t be the one who would be responsible for the mess. You know what I mean.

This is not applicable in just workplaces but in your everyday life too. It works with everyone whether it’s your friend or one of your family members. Just say no when you feel it; it gives you a tremendous amount of self-confidence, and it increases your self-esteem too. 

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3. Don’t take discouragement seriously

You often have heard this saying, you cannot please everyone and it’s an absolute true fact. By the way, in my opinion, you should not even try to please everyone around you, it’s just a waste of your time and effort.

Studies have shown that women are the ones who have more of this people-pleasing instinct compared to men. Roughly about 7 out of every 10 women have this. 

Discouragement is a part of living, don’t take it seriously. You cannot expect anyone literally anyone, whether it’s your family, friends, colleagues at the workplace, your spouse, children, or any other dear one, to encourage and appreciate you all the time. There will be times when they don’t and there is no need to feel bad about it. Instead, take this as feedback and improve accordingly.

If you take it seriously, then there will always be this thought in your mind, what if they don’t like it? And guess what, this thought won’t let you be yourself. You will always try to do things that make them happy and not you, which is not good.  

And when it comes to self-confidence, these things help to lower it down and you absolutely don’t want it.

4. Talk to yourself

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Have you tried self-taking? If you haven’t then you should do it. Self-talking comes out to be a very good way to increase your self-confidence and it also helps manage your stress levels.

Everyone talks to themselves in their mind, but when it comes to increasing your self-confidence, you should consider talking to yourself – OUT LOUD.

It’s a very effective way to let everything that’s in your heart come out which by the way is very necessary. Talking to yourself increases your self-confidence and gives you mental peace, as now you have yourself to whom you can talk about anything you feel like.

You can practice talking to yourself in the mirror for about 10-15 minutes every day. This practice will give you an effective boost in your confidence as it’s you only whom you are talking to. You know what your flaws are and you can work on them accordingly. 

5. Stop doubting yourself 

Often times people say certain things that they truly believe in and think about it the very next moment. Their mind goes like, Oh…did I say it right? Did I do the right thing? I shouldn’t have said that. 

And some are even worse, they don’t believe in themselves. They don’t believe that they can be right, that they can have a unique point of view. People like them don’t really expect themselves to be good at something. They are always doubting themselves which sometimes makes others take advantage of them.

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I mean come on people, you haven’t done anything wrong. So, just stop questing and doubting yourself. Just be brave enough to stand strong. Take a stand for yourself and fight for what you believe in. If you don’t take a stand for things that you believe are right, you will just find yourself doing what others want you to do.

If you don’t believe in yourself, then how can you expect others to believe in you? No one even cares how good you are at what you do, they only care about how you present yourself and get them the results. 

So, just be bold and brave, you haven’t done or said anything wrong. If you believe in certain things, then just be courageous and take a stand for yourself. 

Conclusion

There are actually no typical steps that work for everyone that you can also follow and it will boost your self-confidence to the sky. No, it doesn’t work like that. Every individual is different and hence their strengths and weaknesses are too. 

A person might feel it hard to talk to others confidently while the other may not. They both might have different points of view when it comes to being confident.

And here, the 5 ways that I talked about, are more on a broad-level basis to help as many people as possible, which are

  • Know your self-worth
  • Learn to say ‘NO’
  • Don’t take discouragement seriously
  • Talk to yourself 
  • Stop doubting yourself

Hope this will helps you to boost your self-confidence. What are the others ways that you apply to your life that boost your self-confidence? Do tell me in the comments below.

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6 super easy ways to stay mentally healthy

Hey, are you mentally healthy and strong? 

Not sure about it? Let’s take a test; answer these questions in Yes or No. 

  • Do you forget to buy oranges when you drive back home after work?
  • Do you feel hard to focus on your work in the office?
  • Do you also forget to pay your bills and pay them on the very last day or when your spouse screams at you to do the same?
  • Do you feel often tired at work?

If the answer to these questions is yes, then I am sorry to tell you that, you might not be as mentally healthy as you might have thought you are. The questions that I just asked are the signals that your brain is giving you to slow down.

Studies have shown about 73% of the world’s total population suffers from mental health issues like stress, anxiety, memory loss, depression, lack of concentration, panic attacks, and so on. There can be several reasons that can affect your mental health including unhealthy work-life balance, lifestyle, career issues, personal & emotional issues, relationship problems, health issues, hereditary, etc.

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Now, just relax; I don’t want you to feel intimidated by these statistics and science data. I just want you to know that it doesn’t matter what problem you are facing right now, you can solve it. I believe in you and I know you do too.

Life is all about having problems and finding solutions for them, right? So, just chill as I’ll be sharing my super simple tips that you can implement right away, starting today, and can serve your mind with better health. 

Note that these tips or exercises are both physical and mental. Some tips are more of like habits that you need to develop and some are total exercises for which you have to sweat.

Here are 6 simple and easy-to-implement things that you should be doing if you want to stay mentally healthy. 

1. Let go of things that are out of your control

Everyone has problems in life; some have big ones like career or relationship issues and some have small ones like they don’t know what to wear to the party because the dress they wanted is now spoiled.

Not even a single person on the planet can say that they are problem-free; including you and me. So, I just want you to relax and calm down; you don’t have to control everything in your life and the true fact is that even if you have to, you cannot. You cannot control every single thing happening in your life. 

We all know stress is a very common issue when we talk about mental health, and these day-to-day problems are the root causes of stress. When you think and think about your problem which actually doesn’t deserve that much thinking, what you are doing is wasting your energy and giving yourself mental trauma, which is USELESS & BASELESS. 

People who are mentally healthy know which problem is worth giving their energy to. They don’t pay much attention to things that are out of their control. They focus on the things that matter to them the most and work accordingly. This also helps them to be productive as they are fully focused.

So, it is better to let go of things that are out of your control than keep thinking about them and wasting your energy.

2. Take proper amount of sleep

Sleep is also an important aspect when we talk about our mental health. Staying up late at night and watching Netflix, playing video games, or scrolling through social media, is not going to support you in staying mentally healthy. The lights and rays coming out of these gadgets can develop insomnia.

Studies have shown that irregular sleep reduces the reach of glucose levels in the brain by upto 6% and which by the way increases your sugar intake. It makes you feel sleepy and tired all day which further reduces your focus and concentration levels. It also affects your productivity at work as your mind is not in its best state. 

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According to science, the sleep of 6-7 hours is considered healthy for an adult. The best time for healthy sleeping is between 10 pm to 5 am. 

Did you know? There are 3 stages of sleep: Deep sleep stage, Alert stage, and Dreaming stage. Each stage lasts for 90 minutes and the sleep is considered sound sleep when you complete this whole cycle(90×3) twice without any interruptions. So, make sure to take quality sleep without any disturbances.

3. Meditate every day

Meditation acts as a detoxifier when it comes to staying mentally healthy. It reduces your stress and anxiety upto 84%. It helps your mind to freshen itself and helps you to think clearly. Meditating every day helps you to filter your thoughts and make a clear decision. It also improves your concentration level and memory power.

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Now, it might take you a week or so before you actually start enjoying meditation. You should make a habit of mediation and do it every day to see quality results. It’s not something that you started one day and expect the results the very next day. It might be difficult at the start, you might feel bored or fall asleep but when you cross the struggle period you are gonna love it. 

Start with 15 minutes every day and gradually increase the timings as per your need. You can meditate virtually using apps like Calm, Breethe, Headspace, Buddhify, etc.

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4. Don’t care about what others will say/think

One of the most common reasons that cause you mental trouble is that you care a lot about others. What are they gonna say, how they will feel if I do this/that, what they are gonna think, and the list never ends.

But the truth is everyone is so busy thinking about themselves that they don’t even care about others. Here is a graphic showing what actually happens.

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Really, no one cares about the things that are going on in your life. Everyone cares about themselves only. It’s just a misconception that is in almost every mind.

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Besides this fact, there will be some people who will take more interest in your life than their own. For people like those, I would say just let it be. You can’t do anything with these guys. They are gonna say/think or feel, the way they want to; no matter what you do. So, it’s better for you to focus on yourself and not what others say/think or feel about you because thinking about these useless things will going to give you mental trouble and ultimately affect your mental health, negatively.

5. Know that your happiness is your responsibility

Does your happiness depend on someone else? Is someone else responsible for making you happy?

PS: Someone means any person other than YOU (any includes your spouse/partner too).

If the answer to this question is Yes, then you need to worry a little, because it should not be the case. 

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Mostly, women are the ones who fall under this category. They are the ones who are ever ready to make sacrifices for their family and society. They don’t prioritize themselves and their happiness. Generally, they are dependent on their husbands or children to make them feel happy and they feel guilty to choose their happiness over others’.

If you are a woman who is reading this right now, I just want to tell you, Please don’t do this to yourself. You deserve to be happy and no one can do this for you. You have to do this by yourself, for yourself.

Your happiness is your responsibility and not someone else’s.

Happiness is not something that will come to you, it is something you choose for yourself, each and every time. Being happy is totally in your hand. People who don’t have the key to their happiness in their own hands are the ones who are always dependent on others to make them feel happy. They are more likely to suffer(without any reason) as they keep their happiness behind others. 

Lack of happiness in someone’s life is the main reason they get depressed and live life in misery. This affects their mental health badly. People who are mentally healthy know what makes them happy and they do the same to be happy. They know that if there is something that’s bothering them, it’s their responsibility to change it. No one else is going to do it on their behalf. 

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6. Take proper care of what you eat

You often have heard of this saying – A healthy mind stays in a healthy body. 

Not to mention but your eating habits do affect your mental health. Studies have shown that people who eat spicy food a lot tend to be more aggressive and suffer mood swings quite often in comparison with those who take mild and less spicy food.

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Food such as avocados, walnuts, eggs, green and leafy vegetables are good for your brain health. For more information on how the food you eat affects your mental health. Click here.

Conclusion

When it comes to staying mentally healthy, you need to take a little scan of everything that goes into your mind and ask yourself – Does it matter? 

And then decide to take any action or not. It’s just simple as that. In the above post, we have talked about 6 things that you should consider doing if you want to stay mentally healthy and those are:

  • Let go of things that are out of your control
  • Take proper amount of sleep
  • Meditate everyday
  • Don’t care about what others will say/think
  • Know that your happiness is your responsibility
  • Take proper care of what you eat

These tips are too simple and small to take into consideration but do affect your mental health a lot. Now above all, what is that one thing that resonates with you the most and how do you take care of yourself to stay mentally healthy and strong? Tell me in the comments below.

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5 Secrets to talking to others confidently

Do you also feel shy when it comes to talking to others? Is your conversation too full of  AAHHHs…and UMMMs… more than the real thing you want to talk about?

Well, you are not alone, many people feel this way. It’s a common problem and if it’s your problem too then stick here with me till the end as I’ll be sharing 5 secrets that will help you increase your confidence while talking to someone. 

Many people believe that confidence is something that you are born with, if you are not confident by birth then you cannot be confident ever. But let me tell you, it’s total crap! Don’t let this misconception affect you in any way because it’s not something that you cannot learn. Confidence is a skill and it can be learned like other skills. 

Now, if you think you are not young enough to learn something new, then please don’t do this to yourself. It’s just a thought in your mind and nothing else. Talking to others is an art and you can learn this art too. It doesn’t matter what your age is when it comes to learning something new, what matters though is whether you have a desire to learn it or not.

You might be wondering, do I really need this? The answer for this would be a strong YES. Talking and communicating with others is a crucial part of our lives. You might not realize how important this is for your personal and professional life, but it truly is.

Now if you are thinking, How? Then, go and search around in the corners of your brain and remind yourself of that situation where you felt hesitant and could not say anything. Due to which, you have lost so many opportunities at your workplace. Also if you lack the skill of talking to others confidently, people generally don’t value your opinion. You know it better. Right? 

Not only at work but in your personal life too; if you cannot talk and communicate confidently, people start to lose interest in you. They start to take you for granted which affects your relationship negatively. If you are unable to speak confidently to someone, misunderstanding comes and fills up the voids that have been created due to a lack of talking confidently.

Why do you lack confidence while talking to someone?

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The main reason why you lack confidence is that you are unable to accept your flaws publicly. You are afraid that people are going to judge you based on your weaknesses and flaws. So you just want to hide your imperfections from them. 

You keep on questioning yourself before and while talking to them about what to say, what not to say, what if I say XYZ… and he/she gets hurt and what not, which leads to stammering and awkward silence situations. Also, it hurts your self-confidence badly.

But no one is perfect, Right? Everyone has their own imperfections which make them unique and one of a kind. So it’s okay, accept your flaws and imperfections with both your arms. Don’t worry about people judging you because no matter what you do, people are going to judge you. It’s a true fact. So, why even worry about it. They are gonna do what they wanna do, so you should also do what you wanna do regardless of what they will think or say. 

Now let’s talk about those 5 secrets that will help you talk to others with confidence, providing you will make an effort and do it. You can stop those awkward situations from happening again in the coming future by learning them.

1. Eye Contact is everything 

Have you ever been there when you are talking to a person but he is just looking here and there instead of looking at you? How would you feel? I know it’s not a very comfortable position to be in, it gives the feeling of negligence. 

The same thing goes with you. When you talk to someone without looking at them, it makes the person feel unheard, and sometimes they may even feel that you are ignoring them. Making eye contact while talking to a person is as important as talking itself. Studies have proved that when a person looks into your eyes, you are more likely to connect with them and vice versa.

Now, if you are a shy person who feels uncomfortable looking into someone’s eyes then try focusing on the glabella(the space between the eyebrows) of the person you are talking to or focus on the color of the pupil of his/her eyes. 

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2. Smile while talking

The eye contact should be subtle, neither too much nor too less. It should not look like you are staring at them which makes them feel uncomfortable and it also should not look like you just looked at them and now are ignoring them. 

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Smiling is an important part of effective communication. A smiley face is always appreciated against a frowny or blank face. Think of it like this: who would you like to talk to, a person with a warm and welcoming smile on his/her face or a person with no expression on his/her face at all? I know in most cases, you will choose the person with a smile. 

Smiles are contagious. People always smile back when you treat them with a smile on your face. Your smiley face represents that you are a warm and charming personality and people love to connect with a personality like this. 

Giving a smile while talking makes the other person feel that you are happy talking to them. So, always start your conversion with a smile on your face. 

3. Talking to yourself – OUT LOUD

Everyone talks to themselves in their mind, but when it comes to increasing your self-confidence while talking, you should consider talking to yourself – OUT LOUD.

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It’s a very effective way to let everything that’s in your heart come out which is by the way very necessary. Talking to yourself increases your self-confidence and gives you mental peace, as now you have yourself to whom you can talk anything.

You can practice talking to yourself in the mirror for about 10-15 minutes every day. This practice will give you an effective boost in your confidence as it’s you only whom you are talking to. You know what your flaws are and you can work on them accordingly. 

When you talk to yourself – out loud, you will notice the difference between the tone of your voice when you are talking to someone and when you talk to yourself. When a person talks with confidence there is a heaviness in their voice that makes everyone listen to them; on the other hand, the voice goes a little squeaky when a person with a lack of confidence talks.

There are a lot of other factors on which the quality of your speech depends. You can learn more about it here.

4. Don’t be shy to initiate a conversation

How many times have you taken the initiative to talk to someone? I know when you lack confidence, you barely do that. But this is exactly what you want to change. That’s why you are here, right?

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When you are talking to someone, you are actually trying to make a relationship with them. The relationship can be of any sort; the boss and the employee, client and customer, colleagues, neighbors, friends, family, etc. and it’s your responsibility to maintain that relationship. Taking the initiative to start a conversation with them is a stepping stone towards your win. 

Think of it this way; when you initiate a conversation with someone, you kinda have this feeling in your heart that, “Oooh, I’m the one who started this conversation, it’s because of me we are talking to each other right now.”, which gives a feeling of nothing but proud in yourself which increases your self-esteem. 

Also, your subconscious mind counts this win as your strength and lifts you up from inside. And next time when you are talking to someone it will remind you about this win and boosts your confidence while talking.

So, next time when you see someone you wanna talk to; don’t think too much, just go and talk.

5. Repeat all of the above

‘Practice makes perfect, this saying is too old but true gold. If you want to master the art of talking to others confidently, then you should do it again and again – the more the better. Repeating is the most important thing to do when it comes to learning something new.

When you repeat or practice something every day, your brain starts to capture those things into your subconscious mind which is responsible for most of your activities, generally habit formation. If you want to learn more about how to build a habit then read this blog post on ‘How to develop a new habit to grow in life.’

Conclusion

You work out every day in the gym to remain in good shape, confidence is exactly like that. You need to work on this, and you will be good to go; whether it’s talking to someone or anything else. Let’s take a quick review of these 5 secrets to talk to others confidently that I’ve mentioned above, which includes

  • Maintaining good eye contact, 
  • Smiling while talking, 
  • Talking to yourself – OUT LOUD
  • Initiating a conversation
  • Repeat all of the above.

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5 tips to convert your dreams into reality

Hey, Are you a dreamer; who always dreams about accomplishing your dreams and goals? If yes, then read this blog post till the end as I’ll be sharing 5 tips that will help you convert your dreams into reality and live the life you always wanted.

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Imagine, you are a successful business person who is generating a good amount of annual revenue, driving your favorite Lamborghini, and living in your dream house. Tell me how you’re gonna feel?

Surely, not only you but anyone would feel great. It’s like dream comes true. Isn’t it? But you know what’s sad, most people don’t even believe that this really Is Possible. And if you are among them then I want to tell you this – When you set your mind to something, Everything is possible, Everything is achievable. 

A dream is not the thing you see in sleep but is that thing that doesn’t let you sleep.

A.P.J. Abdul Kalam

Well, there are several tricks and strategies that will take you to the other side of the story. And here I have mentioned 5 of them that you can use to convert your dreams into reality. 

1. Believe in yourself

Everyone dreams. Some dream about becoming a successful businessman, some about achieving financial freedom, some about becoming a world-class athlete, and so on. But how many of us are actually able to accomplish them? 

You guessed it right; a very few. Only about 7-8% of people in the whole world actually achieve their goals and the rest keeps on dreaming. Do you know the reason behind it? 

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Although there are several factors why people fail to achieve their goals, and to start with the most important and probably the first one – it’s the lack of belief. It is the lack of belief that stops you from accomplishing your dreams and turning them into reality.

How do you think you can achieve your goals if you don’t believe in them?

People with a lack of belief always think and act negatively when it comes to their goals. They don’t believe in themselves and think that it’s just a dream and they won’t be able to accomplish it ever. They made a lot of excuses why they can’t do it.

And if you are among them and want to get out of the status quo, what you need is a belief that everything is possible and you can achieve anything. A belief that you are capable of doing anything you set your mind to. 

Here is a saying that says, ‘If you can believe it, you can achieve it.’ And the opposite is also true, ‘If you can’t believe it, you can’t achieve it.’ When it comes to turning your dreams into reality, believing in them and believing in yourself is the first step you have to take. 

So, start Believing in yourself right away.

2. Always be positive

There are two types of vibes and energies that exist in this universe: Positive and Negative.

You might have heard about the Law of Attraction which says you will only attract something that you put yourself into. When you think positively and surround yourself with positivity, all that you get is positivity. It’s like you are attracting positivity from the universe for yourself.

On average, a human brain creates around 6,200 thoughts in a single day which is a blend of both positive and negative. Thinking positively calms your mind and relaxes your nerves. It also promotes the release of Dopamine: a ‘feel-good’ hormone in your body.  

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On the contrary, thinking negatively increase your stress level which serves you in no way. It makes you feel that you have zero worth which doesn’t let you focus on anything. And it’s just obvious that if you don’t feel good, you can’t do any good which serves as a hindrance in your growth. 

So, when it comes to becoming an achiever and accomplishing all your dreams, being always positive and vivacious is what you should focus on. 

3. Don’t wait for the right time

Oftentimes, you think the timings are not perfect yet and you keep on waiting for the right time to take action. You keep on delaying things because of your insecurities and fear of being judged. 

You just keep telling yourself things like, ‘I’m not ready yet, so I’ll do it tomorrow. Every time you think about taking action, you just get caught in this vicious cycle that has no end. 

Keep this in mind that it doesn’t matter how much you wait for that perfect timing, it is not going to come and there will always be a reason why you can’t do anything. 

Waiting for the opportunities to come at you is not what achievers do. They make things happen for themselves by taking action and by being proactive. They don’t wait for opportunities to come to them, they go out there and create for themselves. 

Time is the most valuable thing to them and they can’t afford to waste it. And hence, waiting for the right time is not on their list of actions.

And if you also want to become an achiever, then don’t sit around and wait for the right time. Come out of your comfort zone and make things happen for yourself. 

4. Take action

One of the most common reasons why people fail to get what they want for themselves is that they don’t take action. They get the whole plan ready for the whole month but they don’t take action. Now, it doesn’t matter how amazing and actionable plan they came up with, it’s just a waste of time, effort, and energy if they don’t take action on that basis.

There are several reasons why it happens, some are only daydreamers who only enjoy dreaming about it and don’t give a damn about anything else. Some are afraid of what others are gonna say, some have their own insecurities and fears, some complain that they don’t have time, some procrastinate and keep on delaying because of no reason, and so on. 

If you really want to convert your dreams into reality then make sure that you don’t fall under any of these categories. You have to do 2 things: 1. Take Action and 2. Take Action NOW! 

Keep on doing what you get to do without over-thinking. I know there are some days when you don’t feel like doing anything, but that is the only difference between a man of actions and a man of words. Remember, nothing is going to happen if you don’t take action. 

5. Never quit

Failure is a part of the journey towards success; without failing you can never succeed. When you look at the most successful people in the world, none of them got there without facing challenges and failures. Each and every one of them made a tremendous amount of effort, sacrifices, trials and errors to get where they are today; that’s what makes them different from the crowd. 

The methods they use, the efforts, and the sacrifices they made can be different for everyone, but one thing that is common in all of them is to say no to quitting. 

I don’t know why people talk about accomplishing dreams and goals when they choose to quit. If you really want it, then quitting is not an option. 

When you choose to follow your heart and accomplish your dreams, challenges and hardships walk with you forever there’s no end to it. You have to fill yourself up with that courage, grit, and perseverance that will help you to come up with a solution every time, problems hit you.

A winner is a dreamer who never gives up.

Nelson Mandela

Conclusion

If you really want to convert your dreams into reality, don’t waste your time sitting around; go grab it with both of your hands, work hard and turn them into reality. 

Believe in yourself and do take action. I believe in you.

What do you dream about that doesn’t let you sleep and which of these tips are you going to follow to make them come true? Tell me in the comments below.

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5 habits to develop if you want to level up yourself

Habits play a crucial role in everyone’s life. Habits have the power to make or break you as a person in general. Anyone can predict what your future is going to be, by looking at what habits you have today. In the post below, I have shared 5 habits that you must develop if you want to level up yourself. 

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Everyone has a desire to have a peaceful life with maximum positivity and minimum negativity around them. But many people end up with this desire in their hearts only, and never get to live their life as they wanted. 

Here is a simple solution to this. If you want to change the atmosphere around you, you have to first change what’s inside you. 

Here is a quote by Tamara Kulish. 

If an egg is broken by an outside force, life ends. If it is broken by inside force, life begins. Great things always begin from inside. 

Tamara Kulish

Developing good habits is the best investment you do in yourself. You can change your destiny just by changing your habits.

But quitting your bad habits and developing new ones can be intimidating. Oftentimes you feel that there are several things that you know you are doing wrong and they are not going to take you anywhere. But still, you keep on doing them. It’s not because you are weak or lazy. It is because you haven’t realized the power within yourself.

You have the power inside you and you can do anything you want by using it. You can make wonders if you are committed and determined towards your goal. Nothing is impossible.

Sure, at first you will feel terrible and want to give up when things are not going well and the circumstances are not in your favor. But mind it, Diamonds are made under pressure. 

Listed below are 5 habits that you should develop if you want to level up your life and win every day. 

1. Work out 

Sitting in the office chair for long hours is a new pandemic in society. Therefore, working out is not a need anymore but a requirement.

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Working out every day is the best way to start your morning routine. You don’t have to go to the gym necessarily for that, you can do it at your home. Develop a habit to work out for at least 30 minutes every day.

Start with 10-15 minutes of stretching exercises or maybe jogging. Regular exercising increases metabolism and reduces the risk of a heart attack. It also helps in reducing the stress level in your body. When you work out every day, you will observe that the quality of your sleep has also improved.

Sitting in one position for a long time may result in deforming the spinal S-curve. So when you are at work, find ways to perform physical activities like taking stairs instead of an elevator, taking a walk in the lobby after lunch, etc.

2. Meditation

Developing a habit of meditation is going to help you tremendously.  When you feel lost or frustrated and don’t know how to deal with that, meditation is what’s going to help you to get out of the situation. 

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Some people meditate because the person in their office got great results because of that and now they want the same for them. They start meditation and get bored after 2 or 3 sittings and give up and say things like meditation doesn’t work for them. 

Meditation is not a pill that you take and get the results quickly. It is a practice to train your brain. No great thing happens in one night, it takes time. Right?

What’s exercise is for the body, mediation is for the mind. It calms you, soothes you, and brings positive energy inside you. 

When you develop the habit to meditate for about 15-20 minutes every day, without skipping; you will notice that the power of your brain has increased. It will help you get the right thoughts and ideas at the right time. It boosts the clarity in your mind. 

3. Healthy and nutritious diet

Health is wealth. We have been listening to this quote since childhood. But how many of us actually mind it? Maybe a handful of people. 

Working hard at your job is good but not at the cost of your health. Sometimes you get so tangled up in work and forget to eat on time which can lead to various gastric disorders and acidity. 

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Having the right meal at the right time is very crucial and having a proper and balanced diet is important as well. Make sure to have a proper diet including vitamins, proteins, carbohydrates, and other essential nutrients. Because when you eat healthily, you perform healthily. 

Did you know? The food you eat has a direct connection with your brain. The type of food you eat affects your mind and further affects your body. 

So, It’s very important to know what you are putting into your stomach because it makes a huge impact on the way you behave and react to something or somebody. 

Learn more about a healthy diet with WHO here. 

4. Practice gratitude every day

The world is full of competition today, which actually provokes jealousy, hatred, and negativity towards others. This affects your mental health badly and raises your stress level too. 

When you see someone in your field doing better than you, you envy them; sometimes you even curse them, which is not a sensible thing to do as a human.

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In a world like this, being grateful is what everyone should develop in themselves to make this world a better place to live, not only for others but for themselves too.

Being grateful toward others improves the quality of your relationship with them and most importantly the relationship you have with yourself. It’s not about doing right or wrong, good or bad; it’s about doing something with the right and pure intentions in your heart. There is a hidden blessing in every great thing you do with a good heart.

Help others without being mean and expecting anything in exchange. Helping others and being grateful gives you calmness in your mind, it promotes the positivity inside you. 

According to the law of nature, every action has a reaction. Similarly, when you are grateful to others, the same will come back to you. You should give more to get more. 

Here is a beautiful quote by Tony Robbins.

The secret of living is giving.

Tony Robbins

5. Reading books

There is no wonder why books have been a great friend of humans for a very long time. Books are an excellent source to increase your knowledge. They teach you, inspire you, motivate you, and educate you. 

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Developing a habit of reading books will be very beneficial for you if you want to level up your life. It can save you many years of experiments, mistakes, and trials and errors; as you can learn from someone else’s. There are amazing books by amazing authors who have shared their personal experiences, mistakes they have made in their lifetime, and the lessons they have learned. And isn’t it amazing that you can get them, right in your hand? 

There are books on every topic you can name: health, wealth, success, career, money, self-help, communication, public speaking, writing, talking, technology, computer, software, etc. The list doesn’t end, anyway. You can learn anything you have an interest in, you just have to find a good book. 

Many people get books because they have seen their friends do so, but they can’t go further beyond page 13 and scratches their heads. This is not how it works, you need to have curiosity inside you. Read the books on topics that you have an interest in. 

Choose a book that you want to read and not because someone has gifted it to you. When you read the books and explore the topics you want to know about, you will find yourself turning pages after pages and later books after books. 

This is how you develop a habit of reading books. Just find out what makes you curious.

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5 things to do to change yourself to achieve your goals

Everyone wants to achieve their goals and wants to live the life of their dreams. But not everyone could make it possible. Do you know why? Because for your life to be changed, you need to change yourself first. 

And in this post, I’ll share 5 things that you need to change, if you want to accomplish your dreams and achieve your goals and live your life your way. 

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Change. It is a crucial part of life. It’s gonna happen, whether you like it or not. No one can stop it. And you can’t even imagine your life without changes.

It’s an old saying, ‘Change is the only constant thing in the world’.

And I can bet on this, that there would be something in your life that you want to change.

It can be anything. It can be as small as changing the route which takes less time to your work or as big as changing your career. You might want to change a bad habit and want to develop a good one. 

It can be anything that just clicked your mind a few days back or something that you are thinking about for a very long time, but somehow you couldn’t make it. 

Let’s say, you are not feeling motivated to get started or you might want someone to give you a little push or maybe you are just procrastinating and wasting your time watching those cat videos.

And after giving so much time thinking about it, you decided to get up and take the first step. So now you start exploring the internet. The HOWs, the WHYs, the ways to get this, the ways to get rid of that, and whatnot. 

But if you are just watching videos after videos for the sake of getting motivation. And taking a hell lot of courses to develop a skill or a habit, but are not taking any action. Then I’m sorry to tell you that it ain’t gonna happen. Yeah, it’s never gonna happen.

Here’s a reason why you couldn’t make it. It’s because of this fact that says, ‘If you want to change something in your life, you have to change yourself first.’ 

Many people are scared of change. It’s true, no one likes change. But this is not how a person who wants to achieve his/her goals would think. Don’t you think so?

If you want to get success whether it’s personal or professional, you gotta change yourself. Here are 5 changes that you must do within yourself if you want your dreams to be accomplished and you want to be successful in life.

1. Decide

When it comes to making a change. First, you need to decide ‘WHAT’. What do you want to change in your life? 

Is it making a schedule for workouts? Is it following a healthy diet routine? Or is it about quitting a bad habit or developing a new one? Sometimes there are a lot of things that you want to change in your life but couldn’t make it because you are so confused. You don’t get how and where to start. 

So first, you must decide what you want to change.

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Deciding what change you want is the same as defining your aim. How would you take an action, if you don’t know what it is for? How would you take the first step, if you don’t know where to go? 

Therefore, deciding what you want to change in your life is going to be the first thing you do.

If you are someone who has a long-term vision, then don’t worry. You don’t need to decide each and every step at first. Just decide what are you going to do first and focus on that only. Rest, just keep them at the back of your head and work out later in the future. 

Always set short-term goals and analyze the progress quarterly, half-yearly, or after a particular time period. It will also help you to increase your productivity. 

2. Say no to excuses

Making an excuse is the easiest thing a person can do. You can make excuses for anything, literally anything. But this is not what the achievers do. Right?

In general, people make excuses for something, they don’t like to do or they are bad at, or things that make them suffer in some way. 

There is a reason why you do it. It’s because the human brain always finds a way to survive. It is designed this way. Every time you are stuck somewhere, it will try to save you from the upcoming trouble and pokes you to ignore the problem. That’s the reason why we do it.

That’s the reason why you always find ways to ignore the problem, rather than solve it. But if you practice and train your brain to go to the next level and find the solutions to the problem, you can achieve anything you want. 

You have to muscle up your brain to get the most out of it. Make your brain feel excited and involved in the task that you are doing. This way your brain will work harder on its own and finds new ways to solve a problem.

So, next time when you are stuck somewhere, don’t make excuses to ignore the problem but try to find the solution. 

3. Believe in yourself

Question: What type of person are you? 

The answer to this question totally depends on what types of beliefs you have. 

Beliefs are so powerful. Your beliefs are something that has the power to make or break you. If you want to change yourself and achieve your goals and become successful in life, you must believe in yourself. Believe in each and every possibility that you see for yourself.

Start by reminding yourself that you are capable of achieving whatever it is that you want to achieve in life. You have the ability to do it. You have the power to make things work in your life the way that you want them to.

Don’t let anyone or your own insecurities let you down and make you give up on your dreams. 

Never say things like ‘I’m not good at this, I can’t do that, or I won’t be able to make it happen.’ When you keep saying things like that, your brain starts to absorb it and makes you believe what you just said. So, never say negative things, not even in a joke. Rather say, ‘I’m able to achieve anything I set my mind to.’

Practice this for a week, and you will start to observe the difference in the way you feel, and that ultimately will change the results.

4. Switch to positivity

If you want to change yourself to achieve your goals, then you need to switch your thoughts to the positive. This is the most powerful tool that you have.

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If you think positively and practice gratitude regularly, you are more likely to do and feel good and positive in every situation of your life. You will experience the same energy and vibes everywhere you go. You attract the same things into your life. 

On the contrary, if you think negatively, similar things start to happen to you. You see negativity everywhere. You will start to pick up only negative things in everything you come around with. And without even realizing it, you will be a statue of negativity.

This is because of the Law of Attraction. According to which, whatever you think and give yourself into, similar things start to happen to you. The universe provides you with the same kind of things. So, when you think and feel good, good will happen to you. And when you do the opposite, you know the results now. It’s very simple. 

5. Become fearless

Being successful is a journey and failure is part of it. You can never be successful without failing. 

Every person in this world, who has accomplished their dreams and are successful today, is because they failed so many times. But that’s not what matters, what matters is how many times you failed and stood up to try one more time. 

You have to develop a thick skin for this and commit to yourself that you are not going to give up. Think of it this way, if you failed at something, it means you actually came one step closer to your success.

If you fail, try something else; again you fail, try something else; again you fail, try something else, and so on until you find a solution to the problem.

There is no one recipe for success, there are a lot. Every individual is different, and so is their way of thinking and analyzing stuff. And your job is actually to find your way to success.

You sure have heard of the saying, ‘Diamonds are made under pressure.’ And it’s so true. If you wanna become that person that you’ve been dreaming of your whole life; if you wanna shine like diamonds you have to bear the pressure. 

Conclusion

Only you have the power to change yourself. You must have heard the saying which goes like, One small change can make a big difference. So, change yourself and achieve whatever you want in life. 

Are you ready to do whatever it takes to be what you want to become? Are you ready to change yourself to change your life?

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How to develop a new habit to grow in life

If you are someone who is struggling hard to develop a new habit but couldn’t make it. Then this post is for you.

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Habits play a crucial role in one’s life. They have the power to make or break you. Good habits lead you to greatness and bad habits lead you to nothing. Everyone knows it. But… 

Every time you think about developing a habit of reading or exercising or cycling or whatever it may be; you find yourself doing nothing but quitting. 

Have you ever noticed? Where do you even get these ideas from? The most common new habit ideas come from one of two places: the first being our own desires, and the second being other people’s habits. For example, someone might decide to run a mile every day because a friend told them it would be good for their health. Or, they might decide to go running in the morning because their coworker started running in the mornings and saw the benefits.

This is what we are. This is what human behavior is. We only get the motivation to do something if someone close to us tells us to do so or if they are doing the same thing and got great results. There’s nothing wrong with that, actually. It’s always nice to do something good, regardless of its origin. 

But the motivation and excitement we feel at first, doesn’t actually last for more than a couple of days. Do you know why? 

Because it takes 21 days to make or break a habit and 90 days to bring it into your lifestyle. Developing a new habit isn’t easy. It takes time, patience, and a lot of hard work. But it can be done. 

Here are 5 ways that you can follow to develop a new habit that you have wanted for so long. These practices are very easy to implement in your day-to-day life. And if you practice them sincerely, not only you get a good habit that you have developed but also you will notice how small and slight changes can make a huge difference in your lifestyle. 

1. Set a goal

If you want to develop a habit, start with setting a goal of what you want to achieve or accomplish. 

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Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.

– Tony Robbins

Setting a goal is like defining your aim. And without an aim, you can’t prepare your brain to do something. This isn’t as hard as it sounds. Say you want to develop a habit of writing. And to set a goal for that, you only have to tell your brain that you want to write. It’s as simple as that.

When you set a goal, always start small. Make a small commitment first, and then gradually level it up. For example, if you want to develop a morning walking or jogging habit. Start with 5-10 minutes of the walk for the first few days then gradually increase the timings. This practice will make you stay there for a longer time. 

2. Be Consistent

Without commitment you’ll never start, without consistency, you’ll never finish.

– Denzel Washington

Consistency is the key to success. You can master anything you want when you do it consistently. It makes you better and better and improves your skillset which leads you to become a master of anything. 

Now, the definition of success is different for everyone. It can be earning an X amount of money for you but it can be making a pack of abs for someone else. But consistency works in every field. You have to be consistent if you want to develop a habit, without that you won’t make it.

When you consistently do something, you create a relationship with that thing. There is an invisible string attached to it. You are in a flow; you are in motion; it’s a cycle. 

But sometimes you miss the goal. Yeah, we do it. It’s life, it happens to everyone. But make sure you cover for that and try to never miss again. 

When you are consistent with something, you actually submit yourself to it. It’s your duty now so don’t let the cycle break because if it happens, you have to start from the beginning, not actually but emotionally. 

Your brain only remembers the pains and the pleasures of what you did the latest. So, if you miss, again and again, your brain will be like- “Okay, I can miss again. You know what, let’s just do it”. And it starts to find excuses to miss the goal, Again. So don’t let it.

3. Develop a pattern

The Human brain is just awesome, in every sense. Although, every individual is different; the basic functionality of the brain and the pattern it follows are quite similar. This is how we learn, think and remember the things around us.

Now, before developing a new habit, you must consider developing a pattern first. A pattern can be anything like observing your surroundings and picking anything from that and memorizing it every time you practice your routine.

For example, if you want to develop a habit of meditating. What you have to do is when you sit to meditate next time, try to observe things in your surroundings like the potted plant at the corner of your room or the pattern of the curtain, or anything else. Pick one thing and try to relate it with your mediation and connect them in one string. Now, what actually will happen is that every time you see that plant in your room or that curtain, your mind will automatically start to picture yourself meditating and you are more likely to become focused and determined towards your goal i.e. developing this habit.

It works with everything. You need to figure out what works best for you.

4. Reward yourself

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Everyone has cravings. You might not admit it but yeah, you do. So why not just take advantage of that.

Reward yourself with something you love when you achieve the desired goal. If you want to develop a habit and make it last longer then try rewarding yourself when you accomplish something you fix your mind to.

Craving = Work Done

Let’s say you want to develop a habit of cycling in the morning. Reward yourself with something like a movie night every weekend or an ice cream cone or a sweet dessert or anything else; but only if you go cycling for the whole week. By doing so, you are more likely not to miss a single day because there is a surprise waiting for you on weekend. It’s a win-win. 

It’s like bribing yourself with a thing you love for the thing you hate (or don’t love that much). This strategy works every time. Craving soothes us and can help us do everything we don’t want to. So, make the most of them.

5. Change your environment

Have you ever noticed that when you keep a water bottle with you, you are more likely to drink water from that bottle than without it? And if you keep the book that you want to read right on the corner table, you are more likely to read it when you go to bed?

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That’s how the environment around us affects our behavior. Environment makes a huge impact on personal growth. It affects the mood, the energy, and the vibes around you. 

When you are in the process of developing a new habit, try and create an environment that will help you achieve your goal. Keep everything that inspires and motivates you and avoid things that distract you. It’s that simple. 

For example, If you want to learn how to play guitar, you need to practice it daily. Whether it’s just for 10 minutes but the focus should be on ‘daily’. So, instead of keeping your guitar in and out of the case every time you play it, Place it in the corner of your room where you can see it from everywhere. You can just grab it anytime you want and play it. Using this simple practice, you will be more likely to practice daily and master it. You will also notice that you start to spend more time with your guitar than before.

Making a slight change in the environment you live in, makes a huge impact on the way you behave; and further, it affects your habits. 

So, mind it. If you want to develop a habit, make it a part of your living and it will become a part of your lifestyle. It will take time but it will happen. 

Conclusion

Take an example of a bud you planted someday, but you never water it, you don’t put it into the sunlight, and you don’t take proper care of it.

Do you expect that tiny little bud to grow to become a plant one day? No, you don’t. Right? Because what it takes for a bud to grow and become a plant is the basic needs that are water, sunlight, love, and proper care. 

Habits are just like that bud, if you’ve planted them you have to nourish them every day; if you want to get the fruit out of it. So, it’s actually very simple, take good care of your habits, and then let your habits take care of you.

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How to lift yourself up when you are feeling low

Everyone knows how it feels when we are feeling low and down. The heaviness in the chest is unbearable. Isn’t it? There can be several reasons such as having a bad day at work, anxiety, confusion, stress, feeling overwhelmed, or even lack of inspiration. 

Feeling low can be frustrating, especially when you know that there’s nothing actually wrong with you. Sometimes things are out of your control and what you can do is actually nothing.

When you’re feeling down, it can be hard to get out of bed in the morning. You feel like you have no reason to live, and that life is worse than it’s ever been. Relationships and work can all seem like too much to bear, and you just want to hide away. But hiding away won’t make anything better. Instead, you should just get up and face the problem. 

When you are feeling low, you just need someone to be there with you, listen to you, talk to you, and can lighten your mood. But sometimes there is just you. So, it’s your responsibility to take charge of yourself and lift yourself up, no matter what.

If it’s just about having a bad day at work, then you can lighten your mood by going for a walk, listening to good music, playing with your pets, or doing something you like. But if feeling low is something that happens to you regularly, then you should definitely do something about it. 

Here are some tips that you can follow to lift and cheer yourself up.

1. Talk to yourself

Talking to yourself is the best exercise you should do when you feel low. By talking to yourself, what I mean is actually talking out loud to yourself, and not talking to yourself in your head. 

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Talk to yourself about your feelings, the things you want to do, the things you want, the things that are bothering you, etc. When you start talking to yourself, it will lighten up your soul and energy. It also gives you the feeling of being heard.

Self-talk has other benefits too like it boosts your problem-solving skills, it also improves your planning and reasoning skills.

2. Always be positive

When you are feeling low, the aura and energy around you also become negative. But instead of letting yourself be taken over by the negative emotions, try to be positive.

Though, it’s not very easy to stay happy and positive when you are feeling low. Focus on the positive things in your life, the achievements you have made, or think about the people you love.

It will help you lighten your mood and give you positive vibes.

 3. Smile 

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The next way to tackle the lowness is smiling and laughing. When you are feeling low, just smile; a lot of laughs and smiles. It will help you forget all the odds you are going through and will lift you up. It will also change the vibes around you to positive. Smiling and laughing will tell your brain that there is nothing wrong and worry about. 

Smiling for no reason is a great way to be happy, not only when you are feeling low but also in general. There is nothing odd to smile for no reason. If you think people will call you crazy, then let it be. Who cares, right?

So keep smiling and spread happiness all around you. 

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4. Change your physiology

Have you ever observed what’s your physiology when you are feeling low? If yes, then you must know how your back and shoulders slouch, you feel heaviness in your stomach, and your body is telling you to give up. On contrary, when you feel good, your body is high in energy and you feel joyful.

When you are feeling low, it’s hard to get and cheer up. But it’s worth giving it a try. 

Stand up (if you are sitting) and move your body. Put some music on and shake your body up to the beats. By doing so, you feel a sudden change in your mood, energy, and soul. It will help you forget all your problems and give you the power to get going ahead.

Exercise is another good way to change the state of your body. Exercise for about 20-30 minutes daily will give you a daily boost to your body and make to feel energized all day long.

5. Write

Writing down what’s going on in your mind is a great way to put the burden down from your head to the paper. 

When you think it, ink it.

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Grab a pen/pencil and paper and start writing down. It doesn’t matter what you write, just write everything that’s in your mind. By writing your thoughts what you’ve actually done is, you have put everything that was in your mind on paper, and now it’s finished. It’s gone from your mind and now you can make decisions based on what you have written.

When you are done writing, you will find your mind is not bothering about the stuff anymore, which is quite cool.

Studies have shown that writing not only lightens your burden but you are more likely to find the solutions to the problem you are facing.

6. Meditate

Meditation is the best exercise you can do to get your energy and soul back to life. Practice meditating for about 15-20 minutes daily to see the best results. Meditating soothes your mind and soul. 

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It also helps you to find inner peace. When you feel low, meditation can help you get all the negativity out of your mind and makes you feel better. 

When you meditate daily, your mind becomes used to it. And it will automatically filter your thoughts and doesn’t let negativity bother you ever again. Even if negative thoughts come to your mind, they won’t make you any low.

Conclusion

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it

CHARLES R. SWINDOLL

It really doesn’t matter how big the problem is, there is always a solution to that. You just need to keep calm and find it. Not every day is a good day, but you should never stop making efforts to make that day count. Live your life to the fullest and don’t let any problem take your charm away from yourself.

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7 ways to stop feeling overwhelmed

When you feel overwhelmed, the first thing you want to do is stop because you don’t get what to do and how to do it. You just want to leave everything and run away somewhere far. You feel intimidated and you end up doing nothing but the things that you were doing before that don’t get you any result.

Don’t feel bad about it. Everyone feels overwhelmed at some point in their life especially when they start something new like learning a new skill, changing their career, quitting bad habits, or making good ones. It happens to everyone, you are not alone.

When you feel overwhelmed, it’s easy to get stuck in a vicious cycle. You feel overwhelmed, so you don’t do anything, which makes you feel even more overwhelmed, so you don’t do anything, and so on. But the truth is, you can break the cycle.

It’s quite easy to feel like you’re moving too quickly or not moving fast enough when you are feeling overwhelmed. The reality is that everyone feels a little overwhelmed from time to time. 

But have you ever wondered that what separates the people who become overwhelmed from those who don’t is what they do when they feel overwhelmed? Here are some tips to help you stop feeling overwhelmed and start getting what you want.

1. Calm yourself

When you feel overwhelmed, your mind is racing, your heart is beating briskly, and your body is tense. So, the first thing you should do is to calm yourself down. Take a few deep breaths and relax. Count to 10, it will help you regain your composure.

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Take a break, go for a walk, listen to your favorite music, run some errands, or just sit quietly for some time. This exercise will restart your mind. 

When your mind is at rest, it works the best.

After restarting, give yourself time to manage your thoughts. When you calm yourself down, your thinking becomes clearer, you make better decisions, and you start making progress. 

2. Be positive

Feeling overwhelmed mostly generates negativity in and around you, which makes it very important to develop a habit of being positive. 

When you are feeling overwhelmed and intimidated, tell yourself that everything will be fine. Tell yourself that you will find a solution to the problem you are facing. And don’t only say it but genuinely feel it. Remind yourself of everything in your life that is working well and you are grateful for.

Being positive in the face of adversity is one of the most powerful ways to overcome it. It will help you to stay motivated, and will ultimately help you to achieve your goals.

When you are positive, the Universe generally responds positively too. The Universe always responds to positive energy. So when you are feeling overwhelmed, it is important to be as positive as possible. This can be difficult when you feel so overwhelmed, but it is very important.

3. Believe in yourself

To get rid of the feeling of being overwhelmed, you must learn to believe in yourself. Believe that you can do what you set your mind to. Believe that you can do anything or be anything.

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When you believe in yourself, everything is possible. If you are stuck somewhere or scared of taking an action, just remind yourself that ‘Everything is Possible’. 

When you feel overwhelmed, take a moment to tell yourself that you can do this. Tell yourself that you believe in yourself and that you can achieve whatever it is that you are trying to do. 

Develop a growth mindset and that will help you to overcome or at least give you the power to face every fear, in the process of growing and accomplishing your dreams.

4. Write down your thoughts 

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Writing is a good exercise for your mind as it lightens the burden and you get a feeling of peace. When you are overwhelmed, you have a web of thoughts in your mind, this is the reason why you can’t see things clearly and decide what to do next.

Writing your thoughts down on paper helps you to organize your thoughts and feelings. Get everything out on paper so that you can decide what’s useful and what’s not; what you want to keep doing and what not; what ideas and thoughts to work on and what not, etc. You get the idea.

Then, make a list of the things you want to work on and what you want to hold. And start working.

5. Go one by one

When you feel overwhelmed, take small and actionable steps instead of doing everything at once; or it will drive you nuts. Going one by one makes you focused and you feel more accomplished.

Make a list of things that you want to be done and focus on that at one time, complete it and then only move to the next. Try the Pomodoro technique: set a timer for 25 minutes and work on one big task at a time until the timer goes off.

Don’t make the mistake of accomplishing everything at once. You have often heard of the saying, ‘Great things take time’. And it’s true, nothing happens overnight. 

So, slow down and do one thing at a time. This exercise also helps you to increase your productivity and help you achieve your goals.

6. Set boundaries

When you’re overwhelmed, it can feel like there’s no way out. You feel like you’re drowning in a sea of emotion, and it can be hard to see a way out. But there is a way out—you just need to set some boundaries. 

Set boundaries for yourself to the things that help you in some way, and don’t make you feel exhausted. Cut some people, habits, and things that are not serving you anymore in your growth. Actually, there just stop you from going up. Setting boundaries will help you reduce your stress up to an accountable level. 

It is useless to think and waste your energy on things that don’t matter. Say ‘NO’ to the things that are out of your league and the things that you can’t do anything about. Spend most of your time and energy on things that are worth doing.

7. Don’t hesitate to ask for help

When you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, it can be tempting to try to tough it out. But, this only makes the problem worse. Instead, try to identify the source of your feeling of being overwhelmed and ask for help. 

This may sound obvious, but sometimes we don’t ask for help when we need it because we feel ashamed, embarrassed, or incompetent.

Sometimes we can’t see the solution to the problem we are facing, even if it’s right in front of us, because the mind is stressed out. Asking for someone to help can help you see the solution that you are looking for. 

Conclusion

There can be millions of reasons that you can make like 

Lack of knowledge;

You don’t have enough money to start;

You are confused;

Not feeling inspired;

Lack of experience;

Feeling intimidated and whatnot

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But what you need to achieve your goals is just one strong reason and you are good to go. So, stop making useless excuses and pay for what it takes to succeed which is ‘Struggle’. Stand up and take action. NOW! 

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